By now you probably realize from the unfolding world events, that life will never be the same again. While that is a sobering thought for some, others are feeling stuck grieving the loss of what once was, unable to move forward and others are in complete denial.
The rapid spread of the coronavirus has changed lives on multiple levels and everyone is impacted.
If you live in the west, the chances of us fighting a real war on our home ground was highly unlikely, but for the first time in our lives, this is a different kind of war – the invisible enemy that could strike at any moment, and even if you don’t get infected, the fallout socially and economically will be felt for years to come.
For those of us who have lost our jobs, businesses, and stable income it has been a roller coaster few weeks. By now, most people are feeling the pressures of the economic and mental stress of having their world and routine vanishing in the blink of an eye. People are forced into involuntary isolation and cut off from life and social connection.
Depression, suicide, domestic violence, and relationship strain are at an all-time-critical high where people need help. Even if you think you are okay, post-traumatic stress can occur out of the blue and if you not aware of it, can have long-lasting effects, preventing you from living a happy and healthy life.
What you can do
As a hypnotherapist, I see the benefits of my mental training to be put to practical use to help people move through the new world transition with grace and ease. So I am going to give you 5 tips that will help you not only survive the isolation period but thrive so you can energy stronger, confident, and resilient.
My number one tip to thrive is to give up all judgment. While this may sound simplistic, the energy and notation of judging create rigidity in our lives and our minds.
Harsh, critical people often reserve the harshest criticism for themselves and find it very difficult to be happy and form close, meaningful connections.
They often feel lonely and isolated, which disconnects them further from love, peace, and happiness. If you find that you yourself are constantly judging others, situations, and judging yourself, it’s a habit you need to work on ceasing if you are going to thrive and be happy.
When you catch yourself judging and scolding another, stop and step back from the situation. Talk to your brain like you would a friend.
What is to be gained by judging this person or situation? Does it make me happy to diminish others or myself? Do I feel good about judging others so harshly?
Is this person or situation triggering me because I feel inferior?
I guarantee this line of questioning your beliefs will start to expose the patterns you have cultivated and you can begin to re-frame your beliefs.
Secondly, it’s important to cultivate empathy. When you can put yourself in another person’s shoes and imagine what you would be doing if you were in their position, you begin to see that everything isn’t black and white.
There are a number of contributing factors as to why people think and act the way they do, but the number one cause is because they were programmed to think as they do- it’s their blueprint.
The majority of people you encounter are a copy of their parents, grandparents, caregivers, teachers, all imprinted on them in childhood. They are a copy of a copy and when you understand this notion that they don’t know any better you can empathize with them.
Thirdly, understand the world doesn’t revolve around you and don’t need to control everything and everyone in order to be happy.
Happiness is a state of mind, it’s the hardest emotion to cultivate when you are changing from a negative or pessimistic person to wanting to be happy and successful.
It’s important to find something good every day. Making a daily list of good things that happen rewire your brain to be more positive and see opportunities, that once weren’t there.
And you need to practice daily habits every day and before you know it, you’ve changed your beliefs.
This isn’t the same as saying positive affirmations, they help if you truly believe the affirmation, but if you’re saying them and you doubt it, then it’s harder to change from a negative reference point. So this ties into tip number four- re-framing your believes and reaching for a better feeling thought.
When you are low and down in the dumps and it’s going to be very hard to just get excited about something in your life. A thought is just an idea repeated over and over again. So the next best feeling thought maybe that your grateful, you have good health or that the people in your life are happy and succeeding.
It doesn’t have to be a huge big grand thing that you need to be grateful for. Do you have pets you can be grateful for? Are you able to help out a charity? Do you have a reliable car?
By practicing reaching for the better feeling though, you are rewiring your brain to practice being in a better state of mind and from that place, your emotional state will continue to elevate, and your situation will change.
And finally, practice kindness. Kindness with yourself, your friends, your family. These are tough times and some people are going through an even harder time, if you can practice being kind and kind to yourself and genuinely feel empathy, your emotional state will start to respond by feeling better and more in harmony.
When we go first, the world responds to us and our feelings. It takes practice and discipline to change your mindset but is worth cultivating emotional intelligence, especially during this time because only the resilient ones will thrive during these times, and others will get left behind wondering what the hell happened.